What are your thoughts and feelings about depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? How do/would you deal with some of these issues? I usually just ignore it if it is not so very serious, eg. If people think I am weird, I don't really care. If it pangs a bit, then I just sing to forget it, eg. If people take my things and hide them, and then call me names, I just sing, then I forget. Or course, I get my stuff back first. But, if it is super serious, I just write in my imaginary diary. I never share my problems with anyone else, unless it concerns them closely. That's how I really cope with being really weird at school, but my father is trying to teach me how to disarm those who are sniping at me (disarm, deflect, snip back, etc). I still prefer my own method, though. |
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Emotional Basket Case - Chapter 1
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Why would people be picking on you? It's strange though. If I were in a similar position, I would be asking myself what is it that draws that kind of behaviour in other people towards me and if I had a part to contribute to it.
ReplyDeleteWhat are the weird things you do that would make people so antagonistic?
Sometimes, a good reflective session to examine oneself is useful.
In response to your answer to the blog question, I think you answered only part of it. You just say how you cope with issues that affect you because you deem yourself weirder than others. What about issues that have to do with depression, loneliness,& heartbreaks? Also apart from telling me what you do and what your father is teaching you to do, have you considered if your methods really work well? Do they work well in making you a better person?
Poeple actually pick on me 'cause I admit I am not the best kind of girl to hang be around. And also about the fact that I am really 'old fashioned', meaning I don't even have a phone of my own. And all those new boys and/or girls bands just aren't my type (no offense, Catherine) Ermmm... I actually purposely didn't answer those last three issues because: depression-I am never really depressed; loneliness-I don't really feel lonely, just sometimes alone; heartbreak-the subject is kind of a touchy one for me so I never talk about it... About my methods, I think they work well, because, if I just brush it off and ignore the people who annoy me, they just get bored with finding no response and stop after a while, but if I react, then they would say 'Yay! I got a response! Let's annoy her again!'. I learnt that the hard way with my brother... I also think I am becomeing a little bit more patient using my own methods, so that last question is answered...
ReplyDeleteIt's true that when one ignores the teasing and name calling, after awhile there is just no fun in bothering the person so if this method works for you then its useful. I am, however, more interested in why people would even pick on you in the first place.
ReplyDeleteIf you admit you are 'not the best kind of girl to hang around' then what is it that you do that is so off-putting? I am not saying you need to be a perfect barbie doll in which you live a life of no blemishes either but in a world in which you are different or choose to be different, you still need to live with others, do work in groups and to do so without always having friction is to find a balance in which you don't step on people's toes and offend them but simultaneously, you can be who you are without them bothering you too much.
It is fine to be 'old fashioned'. We all have different taste and interests so just because you are not the same doesn't mean you are weird.
Well, I don't like the way most of my peers do things now. Not trying to say that I am right in everything, but one thing is that they depend too much on ICT (eg. If they can't keep texting to each other, they get restless and don't know what to do) and it makes me really irritated when I am talking to someone or showing soneone something and she/he pays more attention to her/his phone beeping away like a faulty alarm clock. So, I might get kind of snappish at them which ticks them off.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I have been labelled weird ever since primary school so weirdness is no stranger to me. But, there is a plus point on that. Being 'weird' means that not many people like to hang around me too much, meaning that I get a lot of peace and quiet and I get to learn how to dependent on myself so as not to lean on others too much. The people who I have lunch or recess with and generally spend a lot of time with have a lot of traits that are similar to mine, so we actually get to talk about something we both enjoy, and we can understand one another...